When Frenzied Emotions Take Over
August 28, 2019

My emotions have been going crazy over the past week. Imagine a piano where both the white and black keys represent emotions – it’s felt like a wild-haired, frenetic-pianist has been crashing the notes, clanging chords and running his hands up and down the keyboard in a frenzy. My emotions have been all over the place.

It’s not been all that surprising. My husband underwent major heart surgery and during the week I’ve been through a storm of thoughts and feelings.

There has been fear, worry, relief, happiness, gratitude, anger, frustration, exhaustion … almost every day a cacophony of feelings has coursed through me. Some have hung around; others have whizzed by so quickly I’ve hardly had time to experience them.

It’s been interesting to see a parallel between my emotional roller-coaster and my husband’s physical recovery.

On the one hand you might think there are no similarities at all. What can be comparable between a patient undergoing heart surgery and a wife watching his progress? As I look back at the week, I can see a comparison for both of us; we have both experienced a deeper natural intelligence at work.

He went from being very poorly in intensive care to eventually sitting up, then standing and eventually after 4 days, he was able to walk out of hospital on his own.

I was amazed that despite this intrusive and physically traumatic procedure, his body had a deeper intelligence working within it to start the healing journey.

Whilst I didn’t have physical wounds a similar deeper intelligence was at work. Despite the whole gamut of feelings, I could sense a steady, constant source of ‘OKness’ that never left me, regardless of the emotional storms passing through.

When people asked how I was, and I responded that I was absolutely OK, I didn’t mean that I was feeling happy and resourceful 100% of the time. I just meant that I was OK with this whirlwind of feelings erupting out of no-where.

The body heals itself when it comes to physical illness, that’s easy to observe. It’s often harder to realise the same is true for our minds. Our mental health system is designed to self-correct and to re-balance.

It might take time, but if you just listen in, beyond the frenetic whirlwind of thoughts and thinking, then you’ll discover a part of you that provides the ballast in your life.

Whatever kind of noisy cacophony your orchestra of emotions are playing, you’ll always be able to hear the steady quiet flute reminding you of your ‘OKness’. Listen in for that. Sometimes it is quiet, but that’s the bit to trust.

2 Comments

  1. Gerry Godley

    Inspirational!!

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  2. Belinda

    Wonderful Liz and so true! So delighted you and Stu have come through the storm together. Xx

    Reply

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