Wellbeing Listener
November 22, 2020

What’s the simplest gift you can give someone? How about giving a gift that costs nothing and is as pleasurable for the giver as the receiver? What is that gift?

It is the gift of listening.

This year, I’ve explored the power of listening within my community and I’m learning something very profound. I’m learning that when we provide a quality listening space, we help others to stand powerfully in their resilience.

The wellbeing project started as a 3-month experiment in Ivybridge and surrounding parishes. Our initial online webinars became so popular that participants asked for a longer course, so we created the Wellbeing Listener Foundation Programme. We are thrilled that the Ivybridge Coop has selected Inner Compass Guide CIC as their good cause for 12 months – they are supporting us as we share a message of wellbeing within the community.

What’s the difference between a Wellbeing Listening conversation and an ordinary conversation? In regular conversations we often listen with a view to interrupt or contribute ideas – or maybe we want to fix someone, give advice or find a solution.

A Wellbeing Listener conversation is completely different. As the listener you let the person relate their story and explain their issues. But rather than becoming absorbed in the story you listen out for signs of wellbeing and resilience. You can always notice it; even if they have lost sight of it themselves. Regardless of how sad, worried or anxious someone is, their resilience leaks out in their conversation.

As a Wellbeing Listener you are sharpening your eyesight for those instances of wellbeing. It’s a bit like being a bird watcher and training your eye on a nest. You wait, you know where to look and the bird will eventually emerge. It’s the same with wellbeing, when you know where to look, you can help others see wellbeing in themselves.

When someone is listening out for my wellbeing it feels so good. If I find myself lost in insecure thoughts, then the best thing anyone can give me is the precious space to be heard. I don’t want them to examine my worry, or to exaggerate my distress. I don’t want solutions or advice. I want that person to see beyond my thinking and to see who I truly am. I want to be reminded that I am OK and I don’t need to be fixed.

When it’s my turn to listen, then as a Wellbeing Listener I am there to remind you of what we both share. At my core I am a space of connection and love. At your core you are a space of connection and love. When we both allow ourselves to reconnect to what is already there (and listening is a catalyst for this), we are both deeply nourished. Why not give listening as your gift to someone you love?

Stories

Jessica Shipp, the Ivybridge Community Connector loved the training so much she has joined the Foundation programme twice! Here’s her story

Shirley Weeks, is Ivybridge’s Citizen of the year – she sees incredible value in the community listening for wellbeing. Here’s her story.

Ruth Hammond is with the Salvation Army. She’s very active in Ivybridge when it comes to loneliness and isolation – here is her story.

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