Wellbeing in Action
August 30, 2021

Buzz Lightyear

When Buzz, our Labradoodle, nudges me with his nose, this is his invitation to have a snuggle.

When he does this, I’m often busy on the computer responding to emails, or writing, or about to make some phone calls. My initial thought is, “I don’t have time.” But he is insistent, and he wags his tail excitedly when I move away from my desk and sit on his bed. I love his grunt of pleasure as he curls up beside me and relaxes into a snooze.

My thinking always settles as I stroke his back and lay a hand on his head. He is such a beautiful animal, and I love spending time with him.

It is in these little moments that my built-in wellbeing rises to the surface. It is the same for all of us. It is in these every day, ordinary moments that we realise we are much more than we think we are.

When I walk up on the moors and see the inquisitive foals peek out from the safety of their mothers; or when I have a coffee with a friend and I fall into a space of connection; or when I read a good book and lose myself in the plot; all of these simple ordinary moments are wellbeing in action.

There is a big misunderstanding about wellbeing. It looks like we need to ‘fit’ it into our lives. It seems that wellbeing is something we achieve once we’ve completed our ‘to do’ list, or we’ve managed to get away on holiday, or we engage in a fitness plan, or when we eat a healthy diet. Wellbeing isn’t dependant on any of these things.

Wellbeing is actually a deeper, natural energy that exists in all of us. It is always present. When we think about the past, or worry about the future, then our wellbeing is masked. This ‘masking’ of our wellbeing is a bit like the moorland mist descending and covering the hillside. In these moments we only see the mist of our thinking; we forget that the landscape (our wellbeing) is always present.

It can feel frightening when we are lost in thinking. Our minds can whirr with stories about how we are unloved, or we might blame others for being unkind, or we feel guilt, anxiety and worry.

Nowadays, when I experience any of these feelings (feelings like anxiety, worry, judgement, fear or blame), then I know my thinking is just letting me know that the ‘mist’ has come down in my mind and covered my wellbeing. Life doesn’t feel so frightening because I know that regardless of my thinking, the mist will eventually lift, and my wellbeing is still there.

When I experience my wellbeing, it can feel so ordinary; like in those moments with Buzz. For me I experience a sense of settledness and calm. It’s good to know where my wellbeing resides. It’s good to know that it might sometimes be hidden, but it is always there.

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  1. Megan E Whittingham

    I enjoyed this piece Liz. It doesn’t matter how many different versions of the same truth you write – they always have a wholesome reassuring clarity. Thank you!

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